From time to time, Heppers have a dialogue with each other about how much they have learned about themselves and life, on treatment.
It amazes and touches me because often the people who say this are often already clearly well –rounded, aware individuals with a bit of life experience under their belts and a thoughtful approach to this business of being human ..... and being on planet earth.
A dragon slayer may describe having found reserves of strength, or patience, of courage which they never knew they had. Buttons get pushed – because of the way that Hep C can affect so many aspects of our lives; work, relationships, attitudes to social issues, compassion for self and others..... So sometimes people discover growth points, personal issues that they want to resolve, blocks that need release .....
A genuine and profound experience, and god knows (and we all know) hard-won indeed through the gruelling slog and the many losses.
Certainly I’ve had huge learning curves and many insights (though probably more questions than conclusions)
However: other times I have waded wearily through masses of sheer mental junk and total dissonance...... I remember wrestling hard with one particular theme over a period of time, wondering if I had discovered some deep-seated complex or personality flaw which might need many therapeutic hours and much contemplation to resolve ....
Until the day came when I realised that it was a random fixation – didn’t really have a great deal of content or a marvellous treasure to be yielded up, should I sift through the crap and murk with sufficient dedication and humility ....... in other words, managing the process rather than investing too much in the content.
Sure, sometimes there have been pearls to be found. Other times I have just found myself obssessing on a theme because it happened to come up at a given time of high levels of general disruption .... and now think it could have been anything, really.
Much of what happens within in hearts and minds and souls through illness may be the unfolding of an extraordinary journey of triumph over adversity and of personal growth. At other times, a great deal of it is sheer dissonance and chemical –induced scrambled circuits ..... letting go of any great compulsion to always figuring out the difference may be a key; and trust that our sould journey will unfold in any event -
I suppose I would say to myself and others: whatever the magnifying glass is focused on at any given time; don’t take it all too personally.
This may not always be who you are ..... but HOW you are, right now ......
The patience, the courage, the compassion, the sheer determination, is unfolding in you all the time – whether you can figure it all out or not. But we do not have to pass any kind of divine, cosmic or psychic test .... all we need do is our best ...
We will not always feel wiser, stronger . Often we may feel diminished ..... Maybe that’s a really special kind of strength, though; when you absolutely have not one reserve left and are completely blind-sided .... yet somehow you keep on going. Find a way to communicate – even if it’s just one word – and to breathe – and even to just zone out. And to do each day .....
Extraordinary and inspiring enough itself, I think; that even when we have no sense of inspiration at all, (and no capacity for distraction) the human spirit and instinct for survival and for life will somehow drive us on: even if we do feel like we are stumbling blind-folded through the junk yards of life
When you all arrive in a better place ... I hope indeed that you will find you have gathered some treasures along the way. Naming them may be meaningful - but the most important things is living them.
Much love to all ...
Eva day
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